What Is A Tapping Meditation? Jordan Finds Out!

Jordan O'Connell is a GenZ  genius! Not only is she an amazing drummer, musician, production assistant and realtor - she is part of our family.  I've known her since she befriended my oldest daughter in the 5th grade.  She is brilliant in so many ways.  One of her daily struggles is managing her anxiety.  In this podcast, you'll hear her tender hearted story and what she does to cope. We discuss what a tapping meditation is and the technique to follow, during the meditation.  Midway through the podcast you'll find a fully guided tapping meditation for anxiety that I pre-recorded for a client's meditation app.  It will relax and calm your nerves and help recenter your mind and body.  Jordan re-caps how it worked for her and you will be amazed at what she said!   

Chapters

• 0:30 Jordan Speaks About Her Anxiety
• 4:33 What is Tapping?
• 5:51 What is EFT Tapping?
• 7:33 Example of Why to Tap
• 9:13 Practice Tapping the Sequence
• 11:25 Tapping #1 - Anxiety Relief
• 19:17 Live Recap of Jordan's Results!

Transcript

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Welcome to chatterbox radio. Where are you? My drumsticks are my car. Welcome to chatter three. Thinking about it. I was like you the Broncos here Jordan stop some tapping. Where are you tapping? Where are you doing when you're nervous? It's like a like, I guess drumming. I was always it's fingers. It's not wrist. So I would do finger exercises like this. I remember when I worked in the restaurant industry, I would walk around tapping the palms of my hands and like practicing periodontal, so be like, Periodontal periodontal periodontal periodontal, what's a pair of dental it's like, it's a certain like Phil for drumming. And it's something that like, I remember Chris would always show me like, Okay, this is what you have to do. It's super cool if you can do it fast. So I would just sit there. And then it became like an anxious thing. Now, I think, where I realized, like, now if I'm trying to like, I don't know, it's I feel like very anxiety driven. Yeah, they give you more anxiety. When you do that. It might like you know how you'll say like, when you like move your leg, like leg like leg spasming. Nathan does that. And it drives me nuts. Yeah, because he will move the whole couch, like his whole body is like moving. Or like, we'll be talking and I can just see it in the corner of my eye and his his leg going up and down. And I'm like, stop. I like put my hand on his leg. And I'm like, telling him to stop. And you'll just keep going with my hand on there. Yeah. So I imagine it's probably not helping. So I realized that I like like this now too. Like, we're all like, kind of shuffle. My hands are all kind of like, tap my thumb and my pointer finger. Yeah, I do it all the time even walking the dog like walking from, like, my front door to the grass. I'll be like, we're just tapping? Do you do anything else for anxiety? Like to manage your anxiety? Um, I like to read. I know, that seems. It just focuses my mind. Yeah, it's better than watching TV or sitting on my phone. So I remember when you were telling me like one of the things that really helped you. So you were just talking about it yesterday. And you were saying how you know yourself so well, that you know that if you don't keep your mind busy on a task or doing something, that if you have a thought that you'll go attach yourself to that thought, and it will send you down a negative path. And I think that I've always been like that. And that's where, like, even when I was a kid, I would second guess everything. And I was never good in school, like school was super hard for me. I couldn't concentrate ever in school. And then I think it was just more of just like, than I knew I wasn't good at school. So just focus on that. So like were presentations, like presentations in front of people at school was the worst, like, my dyslexia would come out. My like, everything would come out in the span of like me being nervous. That's where it kicks in. Like, I can't read when I get nervous. And then I would be presenting in front of people. And then it looks like I'd be like, Oh, they think I'm stupid or yeah to read. And then it would just be like, I would be pulling on my fingers. Like I remember my parents would try to help me. And I would like pull on my toes. Or I would like I actually ripped my pants one time because I was so like pulling on it when I was a kid with a child. And it was like because I was nervous telling my mom It was like one of those times where like when you tell your parents like, do your projects do the night before and I totally pulled one of those. Yeah. And I was like, Mom, you gotta get a presentation board. And I remember her being so frustrated. And I remember crying and freaking out like, this is my fault. And I rip the pocket off of my pants. That was like pulling on it for years. So I have to focus on stuff now. Like so I feel like maybe the tapping is like me focusing on something so I'm not so focused on like, even walking the dog. If someone's sitting in the car, like walking like watching me walk the dog. I'm like, Oh my gosh, are watching me. And I know they're not so I'm like okay, let's start tapping. Just gonna start talking my fingers. That's an unconstrained on practice on something. Yeah. But it used to be like something I need to focus on it, or I'm going to be gone. Yeah, it will throw my whole week off kind of like what you said this morning. Like how you felt like you messed something up? Yeah, it will ruin my whole day. I think about it all day long or something happens before I go to sleep like, Oh, I know. I'm not sleeping tonight. Yeah, yeah. Well, one of the things I wanted to tell you about was tapping meditation. I just learned this. I was hired to do five different tapping meditations for a meditation app. I was so encouraged when I got that audition because I've been learning about tapping meditation and how it can help sleep anxiety, even like craving like relief. Maybe you don't want to leave it Yeah, the first one I did was called craving relief, like you're just wanting relief from whatever it is maybe addiction. And addiction can be a thought it can be a substance, whatever the meditation app was specifically for people who are trying to wean or get off of a drug. And so the first one was craving relief. It was giving them an option to go somewhere else besides that. And then the next one will be sleep. But I want to focus on that one. But before I do, I want to explain what tapping is. Because since I've started doing this, I've had a lot of people say, Oh, my gosh, that's something I can do wherever I am. And it doesn't cost me anything. And I don't have to have a prescription. So what is it? Is it spiritual? Is a medical, like, how does that affect you? So what is tapping meditation? Well, tapping minute, there's different types of map tapping meditation, the one that I practice, and the one that I did on the meditation app is called EFT. And it stands for emotional freedom technique. And it's a tap to relieve stress, burnout, anxiety, help you sleep calm down. So you can do it before you go to bed. You can do it, say you're at their grocery store or in your car, wherever you need to, you can do it. Is it like? Do you have to do it for a certain period of time? Or is it just like something you sit in your car and be silent? And just tap? Like a certain point? Very good question, Jordan. There's nine tapping points on your body. So what you do is you take you know your fingers on your right hand, you want to do that, yeah. And you can do the four fingers or just two fingers, and then take your left hand, and you're going to tap start tapping the meaty part on the outside of the karate chop point, you just start tapping. And then I will give you some phrases to say, and you'll just repeat it after me. And we'll repeat each phrase at each tapping point, and I'll move you through it. Acupuncture uses needles to apply pressure to these energy points. The EFT uses fingertip tapping to apply pressure. So it's like applying pressure kind of as the, the needles apply the pressure into your nerves. So this would be Yeah, so it stimulates your body and it stimulates that part of your brain, the amygdala. That's where your thoughts kind of get stuck. It helps you process your thoughts. Here's an example. Say you're laying in bed and you can't sleep and you have a problem with anxiety or insomnia or whatever it is. A lot of times, it's because we have a thought that gets stuck. And we can't get past it. Or thinking about the future or the past or the problem, or whatever it is. So when you start tapping, it stimulates those areas in your body to help you process it. So you're speaking out loud, and you're tapping on these points. And it's helping you feel and move through those emotions. And then you're coming back on top of that with a positive tapping affirmation that's now helping you move past the emotions and starting to stimulate that part of your brain that makes you feel better. How long does it take for you to calm down? Does it depend on the person? Well, before every tapping meditation, you should rank your anxiety, your insomnia, your pain, and rank it from zero to 1010 being the worst to say you were a nine and you're like, Okay, I'm feeling like I'm at a nine at the end of that very short, maybe 10 minute tapping meditation, you would assess again. So where is my level now? Am I F or you know, and then you can do the round again. And you can do it as many times as you like, until you feel a lot better or calmer. A lot of times, it just takes one time. Sometimes it will take several times. I'm gonna try it. You do? Yes, do it. Welcome to your space. This tapping meditation is a tool for you to use in overcoming anxiety. It's a great way to relax, release and help to move out of the loop of the monkey mind. Before we get started, let's review the tapping points and how to tap tapping on the body's meridian points since calming signals to the brain, turning down the brain's stress response, so you can let go of stress and find more balance, calmness and ease to move forward. We use a set of nine tapping points for a traditional tapping sequence. To start, take two fingers on your right hand, tap outside the edge of the left hand on the karate chop point and begin tapping. Now use both hands to tap on the beginning of your eyebrow, where the hair of the eyebrows begin that's closest to your nose. Now tap on the side of the eye. Tap on the bone directly along the outside of both eyes. Now continue by tapping underneath the eye on the bone on both sides. Now switch to using just one hand and tap directly underneath your nose just above your top lip. Now tap on the crease of the chin. Now we will tap at the collarbone point. To find this point, start at the sides of your collarbone and down one inch. You can use both hands to tap or spread one hand to reach both sides. Now lift your left arm and tap underneath your armpit right on the side using two fingers. Now move you're tapping to the very top of your head, you can use all your fingertips to gently tap in this area. We start by focusing on the anxiety and honoring the truth of how we feel. So come with me into your safe space, just you no one else. Take a big deep breath in through your nose and out through your mouth if you are right handed, take your right hand and take your two fingers, start tapping the outside edges of the left hand on the karate point. As you tap. Either say this out loud or to yourself. Even though I feel anxious, stressed and overwhelmed. I deeply and completely accept who I am and how I feel. Take the two fingers that you've been tapping with and tap on the beginning of the inside of the eyebrow. Repeat after me. I'm very anxious and very stressed out. Move that tapping over to the side of your eye where the bone curves around and continue saying I have so much anxiety I can't see what to do next. Continue tapping underneath the eye on the eye bone and say I'm so confused. I don't know what to do. Tap on the top lip underneath the nose and say it's so overwhelming. I just want it to stop. Tap on the chin. I've got so much going on. I don't know how to continue my day. Now tap underneath the collarbone on the sides and say this anxiety is taking control. I feel it in my body and my mind. Continue you're tapping, lifting up your left arm underneath your armpit on the side and say I can't think clearly. I just want it to go away continue on the top of the head and tap and say I can feel the anxiety inside my physical body. So deep now we will continue into positive tapping. So let's begin. Take the two fingers and start tapping on the outside of your left hand and say I choose to let go of this anxiety. eyebrow point I trust in my ability to overcome this anxiety Side of the eye, I choose calmness. I'm relaxed now. Under the eye, I am releasing this anxiety from my body and my mind under the nose, I am strong, healthy and full of good energy tap on the chin. I am healthy, I choose to find peace and joy under the collarbone, I trust that I have no more anxiety. I choose to relax now. Under the arm, I am in control of my thoughts and actions. On top of the head, I am capable of getting through this and enjoying a life without being anxious. side of the hand, I choose to relax now. Now tap on the inside of your eyebrow, and I Ville happy, healthy and whole side of the eye. I choose to feel calmer now. Tapping under the eye, I release any of this anxiety associated with negative thoughts. They have no control Tap Tap live. I choose to relax and release. Chin I choose to find some space and let go of this anxiety right now. Collarbone I choose to surrender it now. Under arm I choose to buy these health and joy top of their head. I release anxiety from my body. I have no more anxiety relax your hands. Place them on your thighs and close your eyes. Take a big deep breath in through your nose ambitious the anxiety out through your mouth and release in the time, we'd sapped be calmed your nervous system and ease the symptoms of anxiety. If the intensity is still higher than you would like feel free to repeat this audio now or any time you're experiencing anxiousness. Any amount of relief you gained during the exercise is progress. Remember, the anxiety is only temporary. You will not feel anxious forever. The more you do this tapping exercise, the more powerful it will be. Thank you for tapping with us I feel so relaxed right now. Like I could just lay down and feel peaceful. Like there's not so much like stuff going on in my head. I'm so glad we did it. Yeah, I mean seriously like the last meditation you'd sent us to like after I'm like, just feel so peaceful. Yeah, like rather than so many thoughts kind of like we had talked about yesterday so many thoughts going on in my head. Oh my gosh, that just like made me feel like okay, one thought right now. Yeah, like peace. and senators you a little bit next when we started I was like, There's no way. We're tapping, tapping, tapping. Like usually that's like what I said like, I'm like something I do when I'm stressed. Yeah. So tapping, I'm like, this is just going to fuel on like, I'm not doing it purposely so like now I'm like, Oh, great. You're I am tapping purposefully. Yeah. And I was like, Oh my gosh, just close my eyes. Like, we started, like, you know, after the kind of like, we practice. Totally close my eyes. And I'm like, wow, this is great. Like, I felt myself feeling calm and like slower on the tapping rather than like, tapping quickly, just like, just relax and just step back and listen. Yeah, I was like, Okay, that's good. I opened my mind. So proud of you. I wasn't expecting that. That's good. I think that's good, Jordan. Thanks for listening to chatterbox radio. If you want to hear more about the guests on this show, please visit www dot the chatterbox radio.com Whatever. I'm going to do whatever I want.