Week 3: The Ladies Experienced Spirit: Discipline, Connection and Growth

Carrie starts our conversation off with asking Carla how she finds motivation to live a disciplined life through her daily routine.  Offering great tips and motivation for those looking for it! Jordan gives a Gen Z point of view on how she found generosity. Going deeper into discussion, we talk about how to tackle bombarding thoughts and find the root.  Keri shares the most enchanting story of how she felt Spirit through a cardinal bird and how she was forever changed  by the experience.  She gives real life tips and family time suggestions, too.  This episode is packed with good tips and tricks to help you on your spiritual and mental health journey.  

This episode is a deep dive into the art of maintaining discipline and consistency amidst the chaos, exploring ways to stay motivated, organized, and enjoy every moment. I share my personal journey of mastering my morning routine and how the power of journaling and meditation has helped me deal with difficult thoughts and emotions. Trust me, you'll be amazed at how a little discipline can add a world of difference to your life.

As the conversation progresses, we touch on some profound topics - from the joy of becoming a 'connector' and bringing people together to managing reactions and emotions in challenging circumstances. This episode is an inspiring blend of personal stories, enlightening discussions, and practical tips to help you navigate through your journey of personal growth. We also explore the power of connection, the importance of family, and how to overcome anxiety and self-doubt. So buckle up as we embark on this enlightening journey together.

Towards the end, we delve into the significance of stability and consistency in our lives. Inspired by my personal experiences, we discuss the joy of finding work that offers consistency and the satisfaction of seeing tangible results from our efforts. We wrap up with a heartwarming story about a bird encounter that underscores the importance of recognizing the presence of others in our lives. This episode is filled with insightful discussions and valuable lessons that are sure to inspire and guide you towards personal growth. Don't miss out on this journey of self-discovery!

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Chapters

• 0:39 Carla - Managing Time for Personal Growth
• 4:35 The Importance of Discipline and Consistency
• 13:05 The Power of Connection and Journaling
• 22:59 Jordan - Generosity Discovery
• 26:57 Overcoming Anxiety and Self-Doubt
• 35:50 Keri - Bird Encounter
• 38:03 Bird & Importance of Family
• 43:03 Seeking Stability and Consistency

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:39

I have a question for you. You are so busy with all the things that you do and you work out, you do your study, you go to the gym, you go on walks, you have these groups of women, you do your health coaching and you are feeding into a lot of people how do you find your time to be quiet, to meditate, to do the grounding thing? How do you do that?

Speaker 2: 1:13

I am not going to say that I always do it well, because I was even thinking today as I was rushing around downstairs and I like knocked something over and I literally told myself out loud Carla, slow down, you have got to slow down, this has got to stop. I move at such a fast pace anyway, but it is waking up early and it is going straight from there and it is either doing my journaling quiet time early and then to the gym, or opposite. I knock out the gym and I come home and then chill for a little bit and do that. I think I like that better. This morning I flipped it, just didn't feel the same.

Speaker 1: 1:57

It didn't feel right.

Speaker 2: 1:59

I do always like the darker quiet of the morning, and especially when I have Christmas lights, which I don't have up yet, but inside, where I come, plug a man, it just feels good.

Speaker 2: 2:15

If I go to the gym first, then I lose that, because by the time I get home it will be like Anyway, it is that and then my walking is either squeezed in right after that because it is not a long walk, it is to take the dogs and get out, or it is broken up a couple of times or I do it later. I did a very short one this morning and I will take the dogs out a little bit because it just feels good to me to get out. That is where, like I said, I slow down and I walk and I just have that peace and then I come back and I do more. The walking group it is one day a week. I put a post out and then I am done. The monthly women's group there is not that much to it outside of cultivating relationships. From that, then probably the podcasting is the most time consuming, and the coaching, because I do have a handful of coaching clients.

Speaker 1: 3:18

If someone came to you and was like I just don't have a routine like that. I am not like that, carla, what motivates you? I am like you. I think about a lot of people that don't have that. I was kind of asking myself these questions earlier, just whatever that I had asked you because you seem organized. Or if someone says I am not organized, do people ask you that in your groups of women, like how?

Speaker 2: 3:50

It is funny that you are asking this, because last night when I did a Zoom coaching call and it is not like I do a monthly membership and that is not included I just felt like, hey, my clients need some time to ask me questions. I scheduled an hour for them just to hop on. There was things like that. I just don't know how I work all day. I get home and I don't feel like working out In the morning. I don't. It was a lot of that conversation. I don't feel motivated. That was one of the biggest words. That is one of the things that I have recognized lately is, if we wait for motivation, there are so many times it is not happening.

Speaker 2: 4:36

It is discipline, it is creating that discipline and committing to it and consistency. When we were talking last night, that was a big thing. That came up was consistency and discipline and committed. That is just. I know where I am at. If I don't do that, things just don't roll well for me. If I am disciplined in my working out and I am disciplined in my time to be quiet and disciplined in my walking, and discipline and focusing which is where I probably have the hardest time is when I have to sit there and focus on writing out my show notes, my podcast stuff, my client stuff, sending out emails without trying to check my phone or distract myself because I might want to be doing something else. That is not. The little details are not necessarily the fun part. I know it has to be done. That is kind of what I say. It is discipline. There is morning.

Speaker 2: 5:45

I was not that motivated to go to the gym. I found after I sat and I had my coffee and I did my quiet time, the sun was coming up. It was getting pretty. We have not seen sunshine in a few days. I was like I don't want to go, I just want to go outside. Then I was like no, I am going, I did it. It sure doesn't mean it all runs and rolls perfectly, because it doesn't. There are days I feel like I am running in circles and I am like, okay, well, we will try again tomorrow.

Speaker 1: 6:22

Right. You know so well that when you do do it whether it is your exercise or your Bible study you know you are getting something out of it. You know that you are one step closer to your goal or if you have already reached your goals, you feel good. That is where I am at in my life right now. I know that if I don't go exercise I am not going to feel good inside physically as much as if I didn't.

Speaker 2: 6:51

Yeah, for sure. That is what I was telling them too. I said it is like anything else. Once you develop that consistency and that discipline, you are going to wonder how did I not do this before? How was I not getting up in the morning? How was I coming home from work and just sitting on the sofa when I could have taken a walk? That energized me?

Speaker 1: 7:09

Yeah, what people I don't think really understand is that it gives you energy, yeah, once you get there.

Speaker 3: 7:16

I am home worn.

Speaker 2: 7:17

Now, if you keep going, okay, I am going to put my shoes on, I am just going. You realize how much better you feel and all of a sudden you are breathing the air outside and you are like, okay, this is nice, you are energized, yeah.

Speaker 1: 7:31

And you and I have trained enough people to know that People, when they get past the two weeks mark for me I've kind of seen a two week mark because your body's getting adjusted to the times, getting adjusted to the working out, your body and the soreness and all Something about that two weeks they start looking for it, craving it, like, oh, I miss my workout, mm you know?

Speaker 2: 7:56

Yeah, I know they need them for me.

Speaker 1: 7:59

I've been exercising my whole life because it's the only thing my parents knew to do me is exercise her. So I don't remember not. But if I go a few days without not, I can see where people are. Like that third day I don't really feel that motivation anymore. I don't feel all the oxygen still in my body that's giving me energy from those days of working out and it starts to fade. And it's like that with my quiet time too, my time with the Lord.

Speaker 2: 8:33

Well, and especially during this season and this time is one thing I was saying is everybody gets so busy and they're so tired and so many things going on and schedules that are different, with events and parties and staying up late, shopping online, whatever the things are that you want to go. You know what? I don't have to work out today, or you know what? I'm just gonna eat that whatever bag of chips for dinner because I don't have time to make a meal, and you just start sliding and then that just keeps going and then, all of a sudden, you're to January 4th and you're going. What happened?

Speaker 1: 9:10

And then you run to the gym.

Speaker 2: 9:12

I feel horrible.

Speaker 1: 9:12

And then it's super crowded in January, because 90% of people do that, as you and I know. We've witnessed it. We teach classes, so we see, and right now the classes are scarce. So September, once school starts, that class is packed and then it just starts there. And it's not the first week in January, because I figured that one out too. People are like oh well, excuse you, I gotta nurse the hangover or we'll go back to school.

Speaker 2: 9:45

About January 8th or 9th.

Speaker 1: 9:48

Yeah, and it's like that second week and it's just simply unpacked, and then middle February again, and then it's like this right before summer and then right before school and I want people to get into. I don't want them to be in that group, I want them to be in the group of. Sure, I had a bad couple of days or a bad couple of weeks, but I wanna keep rolling, keep moving. It's a marathon, not a sprint.

Speaker 2: 10:14

It just cause you have a bad day doesn't mean you keep going. It was a bad day and you move forward.

Speaker 1: 10:18

You're done Right and I feel like that with my barking dog and my spirit and all that stuff too Everything. However, a lot of times, we just base it on how we feel. Well, I don't feel like it today and like you said about discipline, that's when you do it anyways.

Speaker 2: 10:37

Yeah, yeah.

Speaker 1: 10:39

And every time I've done it, I've never regretted it.

Speaker 2: 10:43

I know right, or if you go and you don't have the greatest workout, or whatever you like, but I did it. I was here and then I did it, you know.

Speaker 1: 10:51

So, if you've been finding about like the past couple of weeks. We just decided to do this barking dog thing and the spirit lead and all. I loved your stories and your vulnerability and your honesty about what you said, because everything you said, that's pretty much. We're all thinking those same things too. We all suffer and have these thoughts and battling right. So is there any stories or anything you wanna share that you feel that?

Speaker 2: 11:26

I mean the things I would say, like in what I have discovered, maybe in the last week, is, you know, a lot of women tell me that I'm a connector and so when I've been writing and journaling and kind of seeing my connecting of when I do, the alert that made me think of connecting and how much I do love connecting people and connecting women and just that I love. We talked about generosity a little bit and I feel like I can be so generous with my time. You know, if someone needs me, someone wants to do something, I'm gentle. But then again I was like but am I really? Because I kind of pull back on certain things with time too, you know? But I don't know. I just thought a lot about things like that and connecting and connecting women. I actually have another thing, which I'm not sure what it is yet, but it's another connecting group, another way to connect, and you're gonna love it.

Speaker 1: 12:37

Is it a surprise?

Speaker 2: 12:39

Yes, I'm not telling yet cause, yeah, I can't, yeah, but you are not, I know it just came up. But and again. So, as I'm having another way to connect with women, I'm like, okay, can I do all of this well? Can I do all these things I'm getting involved with? And do it well Because I have such a heart's desire to just pull women together, because I just see how much women need it.

Speaker 2: 13:06

It helps and yeah it's just in how, if we're not intentional in coming together and connecting, it's just it's not gonna happen because life is busy and crazy. And so that's a lot of what I've been thinking on, and as I spent time with someone yesterday and connected and it's someone new to town and literally knows no one but her daughter and it just caused me to think I've lived here 22 years in drip, but then in Austin before that I can't imagine going somewhere completely new and not having someone trying to connect and pull me in, you know, yeah, so that's kind of a lot of what I've been sitting with and thinking about is the connecting piece, and I love that. I never saw myself as a connector and now I do, and I love that the Lord has gifted me with that.

Speaker 1: 14:05

Really Isn't that funny, Because I would just assume that you knew that. No.

Speaker 2: 14:10

I mean.

Speaker 2: 14:10

Like, of course, carla is a connector, always I think because before a lot of times I let everything hold me back from connecting. There was always an excuse, like the monthly women's thing here in the home oh, my home, oh, it's so old and it's ugly and I don't want to clean. You know a million million excuses. And then the same with the walking group Well, what day? Well, how am I gonna what if I can't go every week? And it's like just do it, you know, bring women together, whoever comes, comes and you just keep going along and it's. I've seen the friendships that's formed and the connections that it's created and I love it.

Speaker 1: 14:51

Well, I just want to say thank you so much for just being a part of that, because I admire you. You motivate me. Friendships and connection help me. You know, when I'm sitting here doing my journaling, I think about my friends that are journaling with me in a way right, and I'm like, oh, I wonder what they're getting or feeling. And I didn't have that for a long time, I just did it by myself. It's more enjoyable, you know.

Speaker 2: 15:22

Yeah everything's better together. I said everything's better together, you know, and when you can share about it with others, just like it's fun, when you have like interest or whatever way you can share you and I have that passion for exercise and nutrition and fitness and women and then when you can share in that together and the conversations together and just like the journaling and anything else, it's just, you know it makes it better.

Speaker 1: 15:52

Yeah, for things. So in this last week, you know, we're not going to come back together again, it's more of let's just talk about well, we are trusted. That's for next time. But you know, doing the study in our barking dog, I loved the visual, you know, Because it's something so simple. I've met a lot of people, talked to people that are like I just don't know how I have time or I don't know what to do in the moment. And in the moment I have a visual of my barking dog and so I can quickly decipher and do if you need scripture. The scripture came to me in the middle of all this and we discussed it even in. It was Galatians 5. I mean, the whole chapter is amazing, but it basically breaks down what is of God and what isn't of God. And what is of God is Galatians 5, 22, the fruit of the spirit, which is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control, those things. It's hard, you know, but we're not perfect, we're humans.

Speaker 2: 17:09

We're gonna.

Speaker 1: 17:10

What are those thoughts? And Jordan and I talked about it a little bit of do you have a bombarding thought that just kind of is always there, you know, and I know we all do right Until we go meet our maker.

Speaker 1: 17:28

And so one of the lessons that I've learned and tricks that I've learned is, while you're journaling, take that emotion or the thought like say, aging, right, something I think about every day, I fight it and wanna be healthy, and all the things you know. And so I put that word in a circle and then draw a line and say, where is that thought coming from? Well, that thought is coming from this. And where's that coming from? Draw a line well, it's coming from this. Okay, what does God say about that? And then I go and I find what God says about it and every time, whether it's finances, carla, whether it's aging, whether it's being our age and trying to find a new job, right, All those doubts, all those insecurities, it goes, you know, right back to scripture, and I kept hearing Jeremiah 2911, jeremiah 2911.

Speaker 1: 18:37

And no matter what thought I had, it went back to that because he tells us it's his word, he promises us, he has hope for us and a future to prosper us, you know.

Speaker 2: 18:53

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 18:54

It's really made me Digest some of it a little bit more into my being. When it's hard to digest, it's hard to fully absorb into your skin that you're beautiful, or that you're smart, or that everything's going to be okay, or he likes me, or she likes me, whatever those things are, and I tell myself it's because it's not good for me. He's got something better. He's got something better.

Speaker 2: 19:26

I like how you broke that down though, in how you do it, and arrow to this and right where that came from and arrow to that right where that came from, and then take it to scripture. I mean, I think that paints such a good vivid picture for people to understand. Oh well, I can do that. I can sit there and write down, because I think sometimes journaling and doing that time we make it more difficult than it ever needs to be.

Speaker 1: 19:59

It really, we're capable of so much more.

Speaker 2: 20:02

Yeah, yeah, definitely.

Speaker 1: 20:06

I always say in my classes your mind quits before your body because your body can go 100 times longer, further, farther, faster, all of it. You know that it's this that keeps us doing it, and it's the same thing with this journaling, and I just want to encourage those out there that we've identified the barking dog. So we did that. We identified it, we activated it. We activated it by doodling, meditating, generosity, going within, listening to music, all the things trying to open our hearts. And then the third and last thing is practice. Practice it, and I'm inviting anyone out there right now to come practice with us.

Speaker 1: 20:54

Because, we are going to continue to do this walk and I would love to come back someday and talk about it some more. But yeah, I'm excited about that and just I feel like it brought me closer for the beginners.

Speaker 2: 21:12

Yeah, right, it wasn't, and I mean it was. I loved it. It was an incredible journey and it just kind of opened my eyes to things and I think, like I said, a majority of it for me is was going deeper, thinking more as I'm doing it and just allowing it to happen, versus making it happen or thinking this is what it has to look like or this is what I have to do, just allowing, you know, the spirit to just take over.

Speaker 1: 21:44

Go with the flow.

Speaker 2: 21:45

Right, yeah, go with the flow yeah. But I've loved it. It's been so fun, I know, it's awesome.

Speaker 1: 21:51

I love you. I love you. Thank you so much for doing this and we'll talk soon. Ok, back, back, curious to know how things have been going, this whole little experiment that we're doing.

Speaker 4: 22:06

So I know we kind of mentioned being generous and I think me you can take that either way, you can think of like you have to do something to be generous, but I think it can also mean being generous like with your time.

Speaker 4: 22:20

I'm trying to be more generous with my, like my time for people, and then not like try and be more generous, but like almost like a self thing, like trying to be mindful. I think I give others a lot of my time rather than giving myself time. So I'm trying to be generous to myself.

Speaker 1: 22:37

Yeah.

Speaker 4: 22:38

That's important. I seem to be do that a lot and I wear myself out and then I lose it, yeah.

Speaker 4: 22:46

And then I'm trying to put myself, be more generous and being mindful about others and being in their shoes, like why are they reacting this way? And trying to be mindful about their reaction, or maybe my whole thing of why I'm frustrated is not that big of a deal. Like, think about what, why they're frustrated, yeah, or they're acting the way they are and be just more mindful and generous with my I guess my emotion for others, yeah, Like not taking it personal or when I look back and go, I cannot believe I was so upset for like a whole day Over that and that wasn't even what it was Right, yeah.

Speaker 4: 23:29

So I'm trying to be more generous of others, like be mindful, almost, of others emotions, because we can all, I think, get wrapped up in our own world, which I think can be a good thing in certain things, and also a bad thing is that we don't think about maybe this person that walked into the shop that I work at had a horrible day and they're just going to be not so nice because they've had a horrible, like you don't know their personal life. So just be more generous and mindful of you. Don't need to react because they're reacting.

Speaker 1: 24:03

Yeah, so one of the things that we were talking about, and you know, like this week, and wrapping it all up, it kind of came down to identifying it. We identified it and I like the visual that we did because it's a lot quicker for me and then the second part is activated, and we activated it by going within, journaling, doodling, seeing if we're generous, because that's going to open your heart. You know, one of the scriptures that came to me was love covers a multitude of sins and generous is love. And so when we open ourselves, up to our heart, because giving, you know that's a sacrifice. And so one of the things I told Carla that I did was we've talked about over the past three weeks of the thoughts in the Barking Dog, and I think maybe you would agree with me that you have found, like maybe you have a certain thought that keeps kind of coming back around every one again. And so what I did was I put that thought and circled it and then drew a line and was like well, where's that thought coming from? Right, it's the jing. You know well, why am I upset. Where's that thought coming from? And then I write it and then I circle it Where's that coming from A line, write it, circle it. And then I stopped and I was like what does God say about that? What does God say about those circles?

Speaker 1: 25:38

I'm going to go to the Bible and all weeks Galatians 5 has been coming up over and over again, and so I look at it and it actually is scripture that tells you everything that spirit is not, and it tells you everything that spirit is. And so, if I'm having a hard time deciding, you know if this is the right way or if it's not. What does God say about it? And Galatians 5, 25, says since we are living by the spirit, let us follow the spirits leading in every part of our lives. That's what we're doing. And so then, irene, well, what is spirit? How do you recognize it? It's the fruit of the spirit, which is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Like I read those words and I'm just like poor me, because it's a battle. It's a battle, but I know that spirit knows that we're trying, and every time we I try, I know. And then, when you guys tell me your stories, it blesses me because I feel like God's going to bless you a hundredfold just for taking the steps.

Speaker 4: 26:55

Right, yeah, just being.

Speaker 4: 26:58

I think what we look, we look back on, were like our most number one enemy, in a way.

Speaker 4: 27:04

And I took class last December and it was just like you can be upset about something in your life, is something upset, see, for 30 minutes and then you have to get up, dust yourself off and keep going because you can't let whatever just happened ruin your week, because life goes on and I think that it just like looking back on, like all the time that I wasted on, or just like what we do waste bettering ourselves and trying to look in our spirit and ourselves and fixing the problem, or just like reflecting.

Speaker 4: 27:38

I think we do, we can all get wrapped up in that and it's not like a thing you can just fix right away. Of course you have to look back and take a second and just relax, yeah, and look back about what, what, why am I being like this, so so reactive? Why? Why am I having these thoughts of you know, back to like what you said, like the circling, like going back and seeing, like just down the line. It's almost like reading the book backwards, like why are we exactly being like that? And then you just have to keep going and look to God, like what you were saying, on the spirit of what it's guiding you for the future, rather than look back on the past.

Speaker 1: 28:17

Right, that's right, because that's good. Jordan, I'm like, oh my god, tell me you know what you're saying that's good.

Speaker 4: 28:24

I was like. I'll explain.

Speaker 1: 28:26

I'm also listening to the cat dig in the trash can in the living room right now. So you've got 30 minutes and you've got 30 minutes. You got to make it real and it's got to be 30 to 60 seconds long and all we're telling you is the title of it is pretty much.

Speaker 4: 28:49

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 28:50

And so Having my daily panic attack, of course, because that's all it takes is something like that to happen. And then I'm like, what am I gonna do? And then I'm all over the place, I'm pacing, walking in and out, and then I'm like, why am I doing this? This is so silly. Just calm down. You're so felt. Calm down, take your breath, lever my blood pressure, got my pen Went and you know what I started writing. I'm supposed to do this and I have no idea what I'm doing. I don't know what I'm writing, so I'm just doodling by moving my hand and writing these words. I kid you not, 45 second poem flows out of my hand. It was amazing. I wish.

Speaker 4: 29:34

I could do that.

Speaker 1: 29:35

How did that? I don't do that. I mean, I like poems and I've written poems before, but I'm not like poem writer. I got a book or anything kind of thing, you know.

Speaker 4: 29:46

Yeah.

Speaker 1: 29:47

So I sent it to my friend Pauline. You know, she's that country Western singer songwriter. I was like what do you think about that? And she was like it's terrific if you really wrote that.

Speaker 4: 29:58

You're like girl, I did.

Speaker 1: 30:01

Well, he wrote it right. Yeah, Because that's the only thing I can say. How did that? How was I rhyming words like those words together? That's not me.

Speaker 4: 30:12

So was it relative to what you were freaking out about or just like relative to the situation?

Speaker 1: 30:18

I wrote the 30 to 60 second reel for my thing, the job that was a poem that rhymed Wow. I was like no way I was, because I only had 30 minutes. I mean, you know, the kind of pressure though I put on myself is there's no way I can do that in 30 minutes. I'm going to need like 24 hours to like meditate and soak it in and get off the rate of juices rolling and flowing. And maybe I could ask London, or maybe I need to research this or what's that. Pull, pull, because I'm not capable of it. That's what I'm thinking. That's why I'm panicking. I can't do it. I'm not going to be able to do it, I'm not going to get the job, I'm not going to give more money for my family and then we're going to die. There's my trail, right.

Speaker 4: 31:04

That's. I went through somewhat a similar thing yesterday Not like that, like, not similar, similar, but like an adult scenario where we freak ourselves out more than we need to is that I had an injury, as you know, in July, and while that injury was happening, I'm going to the emergency room the whole time. I'm like how am I going to pay for this? I can't even pay for this, there's no way. Well, I'm not, I should not be going as my foot is stuck in my shoe and I heard it go like snap. I'm like, oh no, I'm, I can't afford it.

Speaker 1: 31:35

I saw that leg, that leg broke.

Speaker 4: 31:38

Yeah, like so, you know, months later than all the stuff comes in and I get all these paperwork of adult bills and I'm like, how am I going to pay for this? Like you know, I shouldn't have. I shouldn't have booked a vacation, I shouldn't have done this. I know what? Like you know, you just go down that hole and of course it's like 10 o'clock at night and I'm like why do I freak myself up Like 10 and then you can't sleep, yeah, so like stomachs and knots.

Speaker 4: 32:01

Yeah, I'm like, you know, I'm gonna go shower. I took a shower, turn on the hot, the water super hot, and yeah, calm down. And then I talked about it with Nathan and then he made me feel better. You know what we can do, what we, what the steps we need to start taking towards that, rather than like in the moment, there's nothing I can do right now.

Speaker 1: 32:19

Exactly Calm down, not one thing.

Speaker 4: 32:21

Nope, but it's just.

Speaker 1: 32:22

We freak ourselves out, I think so much, we're so quick to jump down that, that whole line, yeah, instead of there's always a solution.

Speaker 4: 32:33

Yeah, it's, it's. There's no reason for us to go from like it's zero to 10. Like you're going like this, where you're fine, and then like it's like an inconvenience. And you're like, nope, my life's done. Yeah, it's worse day ever. And then it's just like we get so caught up in that rather than stepping back, taking a moment, breathing, writing down your thoughts or taking a shower or doing what you need to do to like a reset.

Speaker 4: 33:03

And then just start writing down or thinking or taking that step what can you do first? And you sat down and you let your pen go and that's what that first step was and you did what you needed to do.

Speaker 1: 33:17

And then I'm putting my brain up, right, yeah, it's opening my brain up to more information and all this. And then he gave me the words and so I can say, yeah, you know another story. I wrote down that. I haven't told anyone this, but it reminded me. God reminded me of the story earlier. You know, starting out voiceover and there's all these things you have to do. We got to do it, right, you got to do all these auditions and get them in. There's these things.

Speaker 1: 33:44

And then I had a friend come along and say can you do me a favor? I have this nonprofit organization and I would love for you to come out on the weekend, early Saturday morning, and I would like for you to do the announcements and you can even pre-record it, play it while you're there, and she's a good friend of mine. So of course I was. I was wanting to do it, however not getting paid for it. I know that I want to be generous with that, something really want to do, but there is that part of me that I'm like, but I'm not getting paid for it. Do you know what I mean? Like I really want to do this. Is this really? And I felt spirit. Tell me follow my lead, because you're doing this out of the kindness and the love for this nonprofit for your friend. I see you and I have such exciting feeling about it. Well, that's how I met the radio guy who ended up giving me my radio jobs.

Speaker 4: 34:41

Yeah, sometimes it just leads to one thing. And for real estate, like for leases, they don't get me much, not a lot for leases. But, as you know, time's gone on and I've had my license for two years now. I've realized that it's not about you doing the moment. Sometimes it's connections that you make during that moment. So there's been two like years now where I have clients that you know give referrals, or you meet someone in that scenario, or it just takes one person to make you feel special. It takes a lot of people that you don't. You have to do a lot of things you don't want to do first before it gets that person. But you know, of course, a nonprofit and like an organization. That's awesome that you've got to do that for your friend.

Speaker 1: 35:26

And then you also got something you know like met someone with that I would have never, I mean you wouldn't have met him If you didn't do that.

Speaker 4: 35:34

and not saying like you wouldn't have if he did or didn't, but just like the fact that you trusted yourself and your instinct of you know I should do this. And then it almost like gave back to you and it paid off for just taking a step back.

Speaker 1: 35:47

Yeah, well, thank you so much for doing this, yeah.

Speaker 3: 35:50

I can give you a story which I mean. No, no one can convince me that this, and I don't even know where this came from. But the whole Redbird thing is like have you heard this? Like when a Redbird comes, it's like it's someone that's passed.

Speaker 1: 36:05

Yeah, like, specifically like in my picture, my profile I have what looks like an ice cream cone, but it's really flowers, and what is apparently supposed to be the cherry is a red cardinal in my profile.

Speaker 3: 36:17

Yes, yeah, yeah, ok, so anytime I would just see them, I'd be like, oh, maybe that's my grandma, or maybe that's Carrie's dad or you know I. But I didn't know, like there was nothing saying that it was a certain person for sure or that you know, but there was. So I had a client who was an elderly couple that was. I had their house listed. We were in the process of purchasing their new house. I've become really close with this lady, like adored her, and she you were selling their house.

Speaker 1: 36:52

Yeah, so were you showing a house or were you selling a house? I?

Speaker 3: 36:56

had. I had their house listed and I was representing them as buyers on another house. Ok, so I had been working with them on their house, which was like they were essentially selling their home so that they their son and his wife were moving to Texas and they were going to buy one like really big property and like with a back house on it or something and so that they would kind of like kind of live together but on the same property. She was so excited to be like doing this for her son and like a couple of Saturdays I went over and had coffee with her, like there was. We had built a relationship outside of just showing houses and but she was pretty stressed about some things and she ended up having a heart attack and dying in the process of this.

Speaker 1: 37:45

Oh my gosh.

Speaker 3: 37:46

And it was literally so sad, like I mean just it was sad for many reasons Her husband ended up having to go into he had some dementia, so then he had to go into like a care unit rather than living with his wife and change things for her son and all those stuff.

Speaker 3: 38:04

Anyway, the day I was I was driving there to get to their house that I had listed it sold and I was going to pick up the sign out of the yard and to get to their house. Like you're just kind of driving down like a wooded road first, like a tree, heavily tree, and I'm just driving along and this I mean I could almost cry like even still, this red bird just flew right in front of my car and I'm like no freaking way, like I know that was her, I know it was like yeah, I mean, if I'm crazy, I'm crazy and I don't care. I like when you know that you've heard something or felt something or seen something, so I would never dispute what you say, you've experienced or heard, and even if I haven't heard it in the same way yeah that makes sense.

Speaker 3: 38:56

But I do know what it feels like to feel someone's presence, or or it's like to me I think there's the term God week Like it's, it's it's God's way of revealing to you. Like I think he thinks that he knows those relationships were special and he knows there's it's hard to to release fully and like, and he, I think he, gives us those sweet moments or those you know, whether it comes directly to you or from through someone else, to just like, confirm the feelings that are there in the relationship. And you know, I don't know I'm not going to act like I know how to explain it or that I'm not like a medium or yeah, or why would you just?

Speaker 1: 39:40

I mean, in that split second moment, you don't have time to decide. I couldn't have said that you thought it was her or not. Oh, there's a cardinal. I remember a story. I wonder if, oh, this, I mean so many things are happening and you're driving, and you're going, and you're picking this up, and then this bird happens and you're just like oh, my God, it's like it's instant. You just know.

Speaker 3: 40:03

Yeah, it's instant. You couldn't concoct the story because it yeah, it's too Right why?

Speaker 1: 40:10

So I honestly, if I had made, the story of it.

Speaker 3: 40:12

The story up, I would. That was three years ago. I couldn't remember it today. You know what I'm saying. Like I don't have that good of a memory of like a lie or a man.

Speaker 1: 40:23

Yeah, exactly, it was the way that it made you feel yeah, you know we're going through that whole thing. You know, when he was getting back and he was thinking all the silly things that the young kids do at that time. And then security, especially like, oh my God, was there really good thing?

Speaker 2: 40:41

No way.

Speaker 1: 40:42

I said Miles, no one cares. Yeah, I hate to tell you this, but no one cares they don't. And people take gap years and people go back to school and leave and come back to school. No one's tracking you making sure. Oh yeah, what we think in our heads.

Speaker 3: 41:04

Here's real proof. If you want to give a nice example of people don't care or notice half the time, even on social media, I can't tell you for probably at least two or three years that I was putting out, you know, being a realtor, like I would make posts of this house, I had listed this house, I had sold like blah, blah, blah. There's stuff I mean in my mind. The whole world surely knows I'm a realtor because it's out there to see. I would have people be like I didn't know you were in real estate and I'm like really so good or bad, whatever it is, people don't really know what you're doing Honestly, especially me. Even I have to track you down. What is she? What is?

Speaker 3: 41:52

that again, but yeah. No, it's so wild, Go have y'all. Has your family seen the movie the Blind? It's the movie about.

Speaker 1: 42:06

Write that down.

Speaker 3: 42:07

Yeah, phil Robertson, the Duck Dynasty guy and his wife. No, I have it, but I've heard about it. Go see it and take your kid. My girls like even they loved it and it's so like it just leaves you, like my kids left feeling the same way I did of like just literally all you want is your home and your family and your like, your peace and like not that we can't strive for things. I'm not saying that Like obviously it's fine we can have goals and dreams and whatever, but it just it minimizes how you feel about goals and dreams and elevates how you feel about it's just a good visual, about like what's important. It's just so sweet and like good, I can't rent it.

Speaker 1: 42:56

I have to go to the movie theater.

Speaker 3: 42:57

It actually might be streaming now. Okay, the Blind.

Speaker 1: 43:01

Uh-huh, yeah, look for it. And you said Duck Dynasty, so it's like the family or it's about them.

Speaker 3: 43:10

It's true story.

Speaker 1: 43:11

Oh, it is. Yeah, don't tell me anymore.

Speaker 3: 43:15

Okay, yeah, I'm a little like I've enjoyed being home and getting to be creative and doing some of this stuff. I'm thankful I get to work for myself, I'm all of those things. But it's also nice to be like here's a task, you completed it, you get paid for it and it feels productive.

Speaker 1: 43:34

And.

Speaker 3: 43:34

I'm like I needed that, Like I don't have to have it constantly, but I needed a glimpse of it so that I can feel like inspiration to keep going.

Speaker 1: 43:44

Well, and the chasing of the jobs? Yeah, I'm worn out. I'm worn out, well.

Speaker 3: 43:49

I'm chasing.

Speaker 1: 43:50

Chase. But when you get one and you feel consistency, yes, makes you motivated.

Speaker 3: 43:56

Consistency You're doing like equals peace. I feel like, in a way, like it's just. When everything is constantly a roller coaster and that's how real estate was too I was like I'm not made for this. I need yeah, I will work so hard and I will do the chase and I will work off the clock hours, whatever. It's not that, it's just that I also need some stability and some To feel.

Speaker 1: 44:24

Yeah.

Speaker 3: 44:25

Like what I'm doing. It matters and makes a lick of difference, you know. Yeah, instead of just like you know I mean actually, carrie I'm like, honestly, I enjoy cleaning my house and unloading my dishwasher because it's like I know what I accomplished. Yeah, yeah, my house was clean. Like, yeah, I did something and I got a result Right, so all right.

Speaker 1: 44:48

Have a good one, love you, love you too.